Hubby’s & BF’s Not Excited By Crochet


A viewer writes:

The Crochet Crowd, Michael Sellick

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I’m sorry but I have to bitch a little. I always get so excited with I’m about to end and project and start a new one! Well, tonight is one of those nights. I’m ending a project for a friend of mine and I decided what I want to do next. I was so excited I showed it to my boyfriend and he’s like, okay. No reaction. I really wish he’s be excited for me. And he doesn’t even get excited when I’ve finished something. Okay, maybe excited is a bit too strong. I wish he would be happy. Something to know that he really cares. Sorry. I just need to vent.

This is all very common in the world of crochet, and in fact, when a spouse or partner doesn’t share the interests that we have, this seems pretty typical regardless of the interests. Asking a spouse to be happy for our personal accomplishments is not that much to ask for but it might come down to the spouse being a little more observant to what makes us tick as a person.

Oprah reminded me years ago that we each have one wish in life. We are each seeking validation for what we do and who we are. Essentially, each of us needs to be acknowledged. This is one of those moments where it is the most critical time to be acknowledged.

As a person heavy into crochet, it’s easy to tell when someone is excited by their projects and very easy to join their excited party. However, I think the world loves negativity and sometimes pulling out a positive comment out of our brains seems to be the last thing we seek. Some people love the drama and seeing negative reaction, even if it means our feelings are hurt like our reader is sharing.

To share a personal point of view, Daniel loves garden. He’s head over heels for it and gets excited when a garden centre has a rare species of plant. I, sometimes, roll my eyes and say “Whatever”… essentially, I am not validating Daniel’s excitement and that’s a true shame for me to do that. No Scoopy Snacks for me!

Truly, I can tell Daniel is excited and it’s up to me to observe that and put my own interests aside and join in with his. You won’t catch me planting flowers but he’s not expecting that. He’s just wanting me to be excited by something that interests him. So essentially, I have to flip the coin and ask leading questions that validate his thought process. “Where would you plant that?” or “Wouldn’t that look amazing under the pergola?” It really doesn’t take much and it’s a respect for our individual tastes if I were to ever classify it as something.

Has this happened to you? What did you do about it? Is there any advice you can give our writer to help her in some way?

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I am Mikey, owner of The Crochet Crowd Blog. I'm a 'hooker' at heart with the passion to crochet. I am from Ontario Canada and teach how to crochet online through YouTube Video Tutorials. From a simple idea and being at the right place and time in my life back in 2008, the concept of The Crochet Crowd was developed. I'm here to hook and share. Come follow my crochet journey and share yours with comments here and you are most welcome to share your creativity within our Facebook page.
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60 Responses to Hubby’s & BF’s Not Excited By Crochet

  1. It’s very sad that the writer’s boyfriend can’t seem to get happy about her being happy. I mean, when your partner isn’t into the same things as you, that’s all you can really expect is for them to be happy that you are happy. It’s truly a shame that he isn’t in tune enough with her feelings to see that his reactions hurt her.
    I am very fortunate that my husband (and children, and friends, and most of my family!) are very appreciative of my crochet talent. My hubby and children do not understand how I can get so excited about a color or style of yarn, but they smile with me because they know I’m happy. They are always honest about my projects and usually pretty amazed by what I can do. I’ve tried to teach both of my children to crochet, and they just can’t seem to get it, but that’s okay. It gives them more of an appreciation of what I do with yarn. And it works the other way around, too. My husband is into WarHammer 40k miniature painting. I listen to his ideas, I look at the new stuff that’s coming out with him, and it makes me happy that he’s happy.

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