A viewer writes:
I’m sorry but I have to bitch a little. I always get so excited with I’m about to end and project and start a new one! Well, tonight is one of those nights. I’m ending a project for a friend of mine and I decided what I want to do next. I was so excited I showed it to my boyfriend and he’s like, okay. No reaction. I really wish he’s be excited for me. And he doesn’t even get excited when I’ve finished something. Okay, maybe excited is a bit too strong. I wish he would be happy. Something to know that he really cares. Sorry. I just need to vent.
This is all very common in the world of crochet, and in fact, when a spouse or partner doesn’t share the interests that we have, this seems pretty typical regardless of the interests. Asking a spouse to be happy for our personal accomplishments is not that much to ask for but it might come down to the spouse being a little more observant to what makes us tick as a person.
Oprah reminded me years ago that we each have one wish in life. We are each seeking validation for what we do and who we are. Essentially, each of us needs to be acknowledged. This is one of those moments where it is the most critical time to be acknowledged.
As a person heavy into crochet, it’s easy to tell when someone is excited by their projects and very easy to join their excited party. However, I think the world loves negativity and sometimes pulling out a positive comment out of our brains seems to be the last thing we seek. Some people love the drama and seeing negative reaction, even if it means our feelings are hurt like our reader is sharing.
To share a personal point of view, Daniel loves garden. He’s head over heels for it and gets excited when a garden centre has a rare species of plant. I, sometimes, roll my eyes and say “Whatever”… essentially, I am not validating Daniel’s excitement and that’s a true shame for me to do that. No Scoopy Snacks for me!
Truly, I can tell Daniel is excited and it’s up to me to observe that and put my own interests aside and join in with his. You won’t catch me planting flowers but he’s not expecting that. He’s just wanting me to be excited by something that interests him. So essentially, I have to flip the coin and ask leading questions that validate his thought process. “Where would you plant that?” or “Wouldn’t that look amazing under the pergola?” It really doesn’t take much and it’s a respect for our individual tastes if I were to ever classify it as something.
Has this happened to you? What did you do about it? Is there any advice you can give our writer to help her in some way?