Diva Dan and I have been talking lately about Criticism in having to deal with it. As a professional musician, it’s not uncommon for him to have his supporters and haters. Some people recent him for his abilities or willingness to explore beyond the norm of music and performance presentations, while others are just cozy in the traditional play what’s been played and don’t expand from it.
I recently had someone criticize me for my colour choices, yarn selections, ideas, patterns and more. Someone, to me, that should have been supportive and encouraging. I felt as if they urinated all over my work and ideas.
In society, we criticize others constantly. Some of it constructive but it’s so easier to destroy people with negative criticism. I’ve been taught in the world of business… “Don’t Criticize Without A Solution At The End Of It!” But many people love to feel better about themselves by taking down another person. I mentally visualize a pile of humans. With a person criticizing, making another fall onto the pile… so that person may climb higher… what people don’t realize is that’s it’s pretty lonely at the top of the pile if you have stomped on all the people along the way.
Some of the greatest artists and writers in history were viewed as crazy thinkers and people hated their work. But history would come to view these people as inventive and modern thinkers of their time. Even though at the time, they were the outcasts of society.
The criticism I received really winded me and really stole a shining light within me. I am actually upset with myself I let this person get to me the way they did. I am suddenly feeling unworthy of being at the Creativ Festival and such. I know this will pass but I know what I have to do to fix this… I have to end all communications with this person. WHY? Because the criticism was not constructive. Turning up their nose at my stuff and bitching about it after I had spent hours creating something unique… SO WHAT IF THE COLOURS DID GO WITH THEIR PERSONAL COLOUR PALLET? Be creative and look at the design. Colours and yarn choices are subjective to each individual. This criticism was tied to resentment and possibly jealousy making it resentful and ugly.
I was reading a blog this morning where someone defended themselves against people who like to criticize. This person’s blog is within the yarn world. I felt so much better reading that… why? Because I am not alone… the more popular you get, the more supporters but the more haters build too… Though supporters out number of the haters big time… it’s just the time people spend to hate.
Just remember in creativity, there is no right or wrong answers! Use your mind, push your limits, and express yourself!