Well… it’s been a week of quietness from Facebook… Diva Dan resigned his position as Director of Music Ministry at the church he worked for. There’s two very different sides to this problem.
On one side is the choir itself, the beautiful compassionate people…. Who faithfully attend every Thursday Evenings to be challenged with new music and ideas to present on Sundays. The music is studied for weeks before it goes to live presentation in front of the congregation. From my balcony seat, I seen people grow. The white music paper is brought to life with these people.
On the other side is church politics. Many of us have experienced these politics at one point or another. My parents ripped us out of a church when I was a teenager over similar issues. It’s about the offering plate and who is the giver to make decisions. It’s about the person who the congregation respects because they know one aspect of the person, but behind closed doors lies a completely different personality.
Due to confidentiality, I can’t say much more than that.
Diva Dan had to make a choice… fight the dirty politics… dealing with high levels of stress and emotional breakdowns over something as simple as producing music for a church….
Walk away and let it all go in the pursuit of happiness.
I voted for Happiness for him. Music is a passion… you can see in videos his passion for music and creativity is demonstrated as it comes from his hands, to the instrument, to the ears of whomever is witness to hearing him play.
Happiness is so under rated… I have a job that I Love… I am excited to get there and try to make a difference. I work with great people. We laugh often throughout the day. I’m not worried about someone planting a trap or some sarcastic email praising me in one sentence and beating me up in another… Then hide that beating up comments behind a story from an old book that many question to be real or not. At my work, we are all accountable for our actions and face the consequences of decisions that we knew to be wrong.
So Diva Dan now needs to come back to earth… He’s breathing again… I am waiting for the emotional breakdown so he can set himself truly free. In the meantime… we are in a long term relationship where the highs and lows go in waves…
I know leaving the church was the best thing he could have done for himself… Yes the money is important, but not at the expense of feeling what he was going through. The church (workplace) will continue and replace him, everyone is replaceable. In time, Daniel will be a name on a list that held office in the church. Time will distort the church and add sugar to sweeten it up.
If you are unhappy… you can’t expect everyone else to change… YOU HAVE TO CHANGE… whether it’s your attitude or your thought process… IN SOME CASES… LIKE THIS ONE… the history of the past, dictates the future… the only solution for change is to take the exit door and say you are worth the short struggle ahead of you in order to exit from something you feel is too much for you to handle.
I’m proud of Diva Dan… I am so excited for his future… He’s been talking about a new future for a long time… so now here it is… without any safety net… great times lay ahead… until then… we will slowly jump over the stepping stones across the river, we may fall from time to time as we cross, but we are definitely going to make it.